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09/23/2016 - Author: Jennifer

Pile of booksSo, I never did consider myself a reader or a real lover of books. However, as I was talking to some ladies about ideas for their next study, I found myself having opinions. Maybe I am a reader after all.

Yes, I have read some other popular ones, but if I did not like them, they are not listed. Yes, there are ones that I still need to read, but I will not recommend them unless I like them. Also, I kept it to Non-fiction only to keep the list short. So…here, in my humble opinion, is a list of suggestions for various reasons, listed in alphabetical order by title. Happy reading friends.

If you need a devotional or Bible Study:

  • 21 Days to Finding Purpose in Pain by Stacy Williams
  • Jesus Calling by Sarah Young–short and to the point. She writes it like Jesus is speaking.
  • Lord, Change My Additude Before It’s Too Late by James MacDonald–I am still reading this one with my group of ladies and it.is.good.
  • One More Step by Rachel Wojo–this can be read alone, but can also be done as a study.
  • Trust Without Borders by Arabah Joy.
  • Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst
  • What Happens When Women Say Yes to God by Lysa TerKeurst.
  • Wives After God(12 week group study) or Wife After God(30-day devo) by Jennifer Smith. If you are like me and a fan of the blog Unveiled Wife and have followed her story, then you will grow doing her study.
  • Women of the Bible by Jean E Syswerda. I like how this breaks it up over 5 days per woman that you study.

For the Gals

  • For The Love by Jen Hatmaker–You will laugh. You will think. She is just that good.
  • For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhehan. I found this helpful as a wife, but really, if you want help in understanding the men in your life, read this. As a side note, she has A LOT of books for various life stages that you should check out. I haven’t read all of them, but if they are like the ones I have read, then they will be helpful.
  • Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey–girl, this can make you rethink your position in church. I was raised in a legalistic way, so this was just nice.  Good stuff and I just love her and would love to meet her this side of Heaven.
  • The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst.

For the Wives

  • The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
  • The Unveiled Wife by Jennifer Smith
  • Through A Man’s Eyes by Shaunti Feldhahan and Craig Gross (Husbands will appreciate you reading this. Can also be helpful for boymoms). I have had the privilege of hearing them speak and they know their stuff. This book is helpful about how guys think
  • To Walk or Stay by Lara Williams. Even if you have not had the trauma of an affair, this is such a good read.

For the Men

  • For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn–ok guys. This will help you with the gals in your life.
  • Husband After God by Aaron and Jennifer Smith. I admit that I have not read this, but I like them so…….

For Couples

  • The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage by Stormie Omartian. OK, I honestly do not remember much about this book. I forgot that I had it, but I don’t believe it can hurt.
  • The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn–what do happy couples do? Some of it is hard, some you may find easy or you are already doing.

For Parents

  • How Do You Tuck In A Superhero? by Rachel Balducci. This was especially helpful for this boymom. I loved it.
  • Praying Circles Around your Children by Mark Batterson
  • The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. This one might be helpful for child care providers or teachers as well as parents.  (A confession–I have not read the one for marriages. Maybe 1 day).

Just Because/Make you Think

  • Interrupted by Jen Hatmaker–you will think.
  • Love Does by Bob Goff
  • Radical by David Platt–good perspective
  • Sparkly Green Earrings by Melanie Shankle–fun read about her parenting journey.
  • The Antelope in the Room by Melanie Shankle–then she wrote one about marriage
  • The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson–pray big people. Pray big.

Now, I am sure that there are some that I have missed, but I am only human. I could talk more about some of the books and the authors, but I don’t want to ramble.

Tell me what you think. Better yet, tell the author if you like the books and spread the word to your friends.

Be blessed 🙂

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Submission in my marriage

07/20/2016 - Author: Jennifer

Lessons for DeclanI have struggled writing this. Other bloggers have done it better. (I have linked two of my favorite bloggers at the end). I have to say that reading wiser bloggers have caused me to reevaluate what it means to be submissive, and I am grateful for them. I would love to meet them and thank them, but alas, this will have to do. Thank you Sheila and Sarah.

I don’t want to bash Matt. (He is better. We are better). I don’t know that I can fully wrap my head around submission. However, my husband Matt did write about it. I said I would. So here it goes.

What I have learned from smarter, wiser women who love God and live to serve Him:

  • Doesn’t mean he makes all decisions–compromise is to be made. In our early years of marriage, what Matt wanted, Matt got. He wouldn’t think of how it would make me feel or how his decisions or words affected US.
  • Doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion
  • He isn’t smarter than me. 
  • I am not inferior. Yes, he is better at some things than others,  but we help each other in areas that we are better, not hurt each other or put each other down. 
  • I don’t have to feel guilty and it is not a sin to have opinions and even be right and my husband be wrong. 

What we did was emotional abusive and has fractured trust. I definitely do not believe that this was showing the love of Jesus to each other and the world. I still struggle and scratch my head at what we were led to believe. Growing up, nobody talked about husbands dying, but wives submit. I am not kidding. Nobody ever talked about Ephesians 5:25-32. Why didn’t the church say that women have value or worth other than to work the nursery? My husband’s actions were encouraged. I just don’t get it. I do not want my son to ever see this. I want him to value the roles that men and women have in church and the world. I want him to respect both genders equally.

The old ways of living out our intrepretation of submission has caused dreams to be crushed and caused low self-esteem.  I am sad to say that there wasn’t anyone until recently who tried to straighten this mess out. What I mean is that there was never any teaching or preaching against what Matt was doing and how we were living our marriage. Nobody seemed to be in a big hurry to correct how we interpreted it.

Since we have gone through marriage counseling, our marriage is healthier now that we are trying to value each others opinions.

What does submission look like in our marriage now? Since we have started the rebuilding of our marriage and I have gained insight from wise women, I believe that submission means helping each other out–be a team for the better of our marriage. It is believing that wives have a voice that husbands should respect (and dare I say adore and appreciate)? It means serving God together with our own talents and gifts. It means listening. It means compromise.

My husband Matt is way better and we have a healthier partnership. I am grateful.

So can I ask you a couple of questions? What does submission look like in your marriage? Were you raised with the word submission, and if so, what were you taught? I really want to hear your thoughts.

 

Be blessed 🙂

 

In which I disagree with Candace Cameron Bure about “biblical marriage”

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One More Step–a giveaway

11/19/2015 - Author: Jennifer

Ok folks. Let’s be real. Life, at times is hard. Sometimes, it just sucks. There are times when I am angry at God. Some days or seasons, it was all I could do to get out of bed, let alone function. Psalm 38:8-9? anyone? Or Psalm 94:19? (Go ahead and look those up, then we can resume).

Have you ever wondered, how can I do this? How can I trudge through life while I have a trial to battle? Have you ever thought that taking one more step is too much? Yeah, me too and so has my friend Rachel.

I met Rachel through social media and attended community Bible studies with her. She is a gem of a gal and her story is one that will give hope, strength, and courage to battle the hard times that come with life. She does this by telling her story in her new book One More Step.

Rachel is not shy about how she takes one more step. Her story is one of vulnerability. Your life may not mirror Rachel’s exactly, but you can be encouraged because she points not to herself, but to God in her easy-to-read book. She uses the Bible to back-up what she says and believes, and to encourage herself and others.

I am blessed and privileged to call Rachel my friend. She was generous to provide a signed copy to giveaway. Just follow the steps below to enter.

Be blessed 🙂

 

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Letter To My Newlywed Self

11/04/2015 - Author: Jennifer

 

 

2013-05-17 21.19.59If you are a blog reader, chances are you have seen posts from writers that they would tell their younger selves. I really enjoy reading those letters, but I debate about writing one to my younger self. Let’s face it–my younger self would just roll my eyes behind my back and try to prove myself wrong or better. None the less, I imagine that she is taking a break from writing thank you notes to read this.

Dear 22 year old bride,

Congratulations! You are married. You are a June bride. For whatever reason, that is/was a big deal. It only holds significance because you married exactly one year to the day of your first date. Your wedding is what you wanted. You and your new husband had guests come and support you. There was nothing extravagant, and that is what you wanted (and what you could afford). At the end of the day, you were married and that is what mattered.

I know you have heard that most people prepare for the wedding and not the marriage, but of course, not you. Wedding planning did not stress you out and you even did the required pre-marriage counseling. I know you did not mind going to all 4 sessions. (That did not last long either). Pre-marriage counseling, however, will not prepare you for everything that lies ahead. I don’t know if it really can for anyone. Yes, opposites attract like you and Matt, but it can be destructive if neither of you put in the hard work that is marriage.

Some advice if you don’t mind. You will need to get over yourself. Oh yes, your husband will hurt you in ways you never thought possible. You will grieve and need to make hard decisions, but you will make them. You will overcome. You will overcome the heartache that the last man on earth you thought would cause. You will however, also need to overcome pride and arrogance on a daily basis. You will need lessons in humility often and you will need to admit you are wrong. You will be a receiver of grace. You will need to give grace, but don’t think yourself better when you do. NONE OF THIS WILL COME EASY TO YOU.

Another thing. Counseling is not a failure. You will feel validated at times. At other times, you will cringe.

Oh, and by the way, you and Matt will have to undo all of the toxic crap that was put into your head about submission in marriage. It will beat you down and break your spirit, but hang on, you will find your voice that God gave you. You will have to re-think and redefine what submission is.  Sure, blame the churches you were raised in and how you saw it lived out growing up, but newlywed, you and your perfect-for-you husband will go on an arduous journey that will make YOU seek the Holy Spirit and not what your minister says. Your husband will have his own journey to go on. You will have to help him on that journey. You will have to go to counseling with him. It will not be pretty. It will not be a fun adventure.

One thing I don’t want you to worry about. Right now, you have the ability to see the good in a lot of situations. You will still be able to do that. It may take more time, but you will get there. You are adaptable, and that can be a good thing and bad thing. You will brag about being flexible, but you will forget who you are because due to your flexibility, you will bend to what others want you to be.  As a 35 year old, you are wondering who you are. Your husband will tell you to be yourself, but you have to work around so many people, including your husband and child (yes, you will become a mom) that you can’t seem to get back who you were. Hang in there. You will. You will get back to the woman you were–a woman who has opinions and ideas and they are not all bad. 

One last thing. God will help you heal. Good will come out of this. Have faith. It really is unbelievable. I will not tell you how because you do not need to know all of the journey. You still need some excitement in your life.

You will be blessed 🙂

Love,
Your 13 year married self.

PS–Sex gets better.

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Submission – A Husband’s View

10/26/2015 - Author: Matthew

There is a lot of talk about submission.  My husband, Matt, is here to share his views. I don’t know why this has scared me to post this, but here we go.

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How can submission be bad?  It is in the Bible after all —

Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”  There it is, in black and white.  That is what I thought early in my marriage — soon after I said “I do”.  I made sure that Jen knew that I was the leader of our household and she had to submit to my leadership.  I was not like that before we got married, but I definitely was after we were married. I honestly don’t know why. If we had an argument in which we reached an impasse, I would throw out submission.  If I felt I was in the right and she was wrong, I would throw out submission.  And, because she was led to believe that she was being obedient to God, she felt she had no choice but to accept that — at least for a time.
But, I slowly wore away her spirit.  She was no longer as carefree and easygoing as when we were first married.  Instead of treating her like a teammate, I treated her as an employee and I was her over-bearing boss. I treated her as if I was smarter than she was, almost like a child.  Finally she shared with me how I was making her feel.  Once I knew just how deeply I had hurt her, and how I was wearing down her spirit, it made me want to change my ways.
Then later on I also learned that Ephesians 5 did not stop at verse 22. I especially had missed the most important part for husbands: Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”.  When the full extent of the following verses started catching my attention, I was ashamed of how I had treated Jen.  I realized that I had been demanding that she sacrifice for me, instead of the way it should have been, me sacrificing for her.  I had been a dictator, not a servant leader.  And, I had been leading from my own desires, not chasing after the desires of God.
Now that I had these pieces of information (Jen’s hurt and Ephesians 5:25), I wish I could say everything was better.  But, years of thinking I had a right to absolute rule of my household did not go away overnight.  I was hard-headed and God had a lot of work to do on me.  It took more hurt on Jen’s part and marriage counseling to finally drill into me how much I needed to sacrifice. Even to this day there are still many times when I make Jen feel like far less than she is because of my arrogance and selfishness. And, the hurt that I caused over the years will not go away overnight.  That does not mean that Jen is not willing to forgive, it just means that healing and trust take time.
Husbands, it is our job to lead by example.  That is what Christ did for us.  He did not say things that He did not also walk out in front of the world.  I know that if I want Jen to feel love from me, it takes action on my part, not just words.  If I want to be a husband that she is proud to have lead our home, then I must first be a man after God’s own heart.  I must follow Christ and His example each and every day. I must serve Him and seek Him to know how to lead. Will I be perfect? No. But, that is not an excuse to not do my best — for myself, for my family, for the Church, and for the world.
And her submission does not mean she is a servant or a slave.  We are a team, fighting side by side as we face the enemy of our souls. There are many areas that God has gifted her in that I need help in and vice versa. I think that is what Ephesians 5:21 is all about, “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”  This is also touched on in Romans 12:4 where we are told that For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function. By each of us following the others lead where we are weak, we make each other stronger — each part of the body of Christ.  And, above all we both need to submit to Christ and His authority over both of our lives.
Also, submission is not something that is demanded, it is something earned. If I demand submission from Jen, then that is putting her into the role of a subordinate.  That is not what I want for her.  I love her and I would rather serve her any day of the week rather than her feeling that she is being forced to server me.  And, even if she does not feel like an employee, I want to love her with the same sacrificial love that led Christ to the cross.  I must die to self each and every day, giving up my rights to living a life focused on me.  I must consider others as better than myself (Phillipians 2:3), especially my wonderful wife, Jen.
Do I have this all down pat? Once again, I wish I could say yes.  But, I am very much a work in progress. I hope you can learn from my bone-headed mistakes and arrogance. I am just grateful that Jennifer has stuck with me through my learning and growing. I want to be a husband that Jen can be proud of.  So, I will continue to work at it, no matter how hard it is, or how long the road seems.

 

 

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When I am Angry at God

09/13/2015 - Author: Jennifer

When I am Angry at GodI have this struggle. I have a lot of struggles, but this one seems to make me go in circles and makes me mad at God. A lot. It threatens my belief in Him. It makes me cry and yell(maybe you can call it a tantrum), but I am not understanding. The struggle is believing God and the Bible when I am obedient in prayer. Let me try to explain.

Psalm 5:3 says this–Listen to my voice in the morning, Lord.
    Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly.

Ok–this hit me. I will admit that praying is something that has become a good church girl routine or more like an SOS. So reading this verse makes me realize that I need to change how I pray. I need to pray with expectations. I need to expect that God will answer. So I tried that recently. Guess what? It didn’t work. God did not give us the answer we prayed for.  No kidding. I don’t know why. My husband and I prayed for the same thing AND expected God to answer for us in a specific way. I even went as far as having faith bigger than a mustard seed. (or did I)?

Now there are other verses that I am wrestling with God over. ( He will win, I know, but the struggle is real for me here folks. Maybe Hebrews 4:16 applies to me here). Psalm 37:3-7 is making me ask some questions to myself. Am I not happy with what God is doing? Do I have commitment issues?

I have said in the past about a couple of other verses that have made me pause. When I am doing what the Bible says and I believe that I am in His will and the opposite seems to happen, it seems like the exertion of faith was all for nothing. Yet, I still believe that He is bigger and better than I can dream for myself. Maybe there is a collision of faith here.

I know that I need to have more of an open mind and heart to what He is saying to me. So is God confirming my lack of faith because I am not praying expectantly enough or is it really not His will? Am I not doing my part–just sitting back and wanting Him to do it all when He wants me to be moving? Honestly, I don’t know.

I think one of the worst things about this is that I feel that I am sounding like I am entitled. After what Jesus did on Calvary, well, I should be beyond grateful and live for Him. So, I am sorry if that is how this is coming across.

What are your thoughts? Can you help this girl out? Have you been where I am?

Be blessed 🙂

As a side note, it was a small request compared to others, but none the less, my struggle is real.

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Learning to Fight

06/24/2015 - Author: Jennifer

This month, Matt and I will be celebrating 13 years of marriage. This is the first year that I have a goal. My goal is to fight correctly with my husband. Yup. Some background.

My husband and I were having an argument that I can’t remember about what. During it, I said that we don’t even want common ground, each of us just want to be right. Then my husband said “let’s fix that.” People, that shut me up. I can’t believe that this man actually wants to do this.

I have to be honest–I don’t know how or what that looks like in my marriage. It is sad. I won’t lie–it has broken me a little (a lot). Our arguments/fights are about proving who is right and no compromise. We don’t try to find even ground.

IMG_20140503_184239In the past, with our misguidance and misrepresentations about submission (that is another post for another time) and leadership in the home, what Matt wanted is what we did. If he thought it was right, we did it. Let me tell you, it is a hard place to be. I don’t have a lot of confidence. I don’t have trust in him (due to other things). I feel low. I know, I know, only I can make myself feel this way, but when you don’t have anyone telling you different and the person you love and vowed to stay married to for better or for worse treats you and your opinions like they don’t matter, well, a huge part of me died. It also doesn’t help when he has people who support him. (I am not kidding).

Sure, my husband is book intelligent, so yeah, he has smarts and knows stuff. Guess what? So do I and I crave for him to acknowledge when I am right or that I am better at some things than he is.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want him to keep opinions to himself or crush his ideas. Sometimes, they are great and helpful. I don’t want my marriage to be a dictatorship. I want there to be equality. There needs to be reconciliation.

How do we fight towards a solution? For us, I think it starts with being open-minded. I also need to believe the best of Matt. I need to choose to believe that he isn’t always being selfish, and that he really wants resolution or what is best.

So that is my goal for this year (and all of the years after). To learn to fight, but not because I think that I am right, but to come to an understanding. For Matt and I to be on the same page and not do battle to prove who is right.

Be blessed 🙂

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My Son Noticed This

06/04/2015 - Author: Jennifer

IMG_20150522_084738Yesterday, I made a smile face with my blueberries on my waffle. My 4 year old said a smile like you mommy. That comment made me smile. I was elated. I never could have imagined that this would be a conversation me and my son would have.

When my son was an infant, I did not laugh a lot. I did not realize this until one day my laugh scared him. I was watching something funny and I laughed out loud. My poor son (around 6 months old) reacted by having a scared look on his face and even jumped a little. My laugh was a foreign sound to him. It made me sad. I knew that motherhood wasn’t always going to be fun and easy, and I thought that I was enjoying being a mom, but my son showed me a different view. I did not notice that I did not have joy. Something had to change.

There was a time when I was known for my smile. There was a time when laughing was easy for me. I don’t know for sure if I can tell you exactly when that stopped, but I have an idea. It started before motherhood. Moving away from friends and a place that I love is when I lost my joy if I had to guess. Coming back to the area I grew up but feeling like a foreigner probably did not help. Not feeling connected or community could have amplified the feeling of boredom and helplessness.

So what helped?

  • Exercise. I don’t have an awesome body, but my mood is a whole lot better. It really does help the mind.
  • Baking. I do not like winter and when you are stuck in the house, well, I had to do something. Cooking (which is a necessity) and baking is something we can do together. Now, nothing fancy, gourmet, or pretty, but somewhat yummy is what we call a success in this house.
  • Work outside of the home. I know that this isn’t popular for a lot of people, but yes, I put my son in daycare at the age of 3. I also put him in pre-school in our public school system. I can honestly say that I enjoy being a radiologic technologist (x-ray tech. NOT TECHNICIANS BUT TECHNOLOGISTS). The way all of the events worked out, well, I can only point to God because not a lot of techs can work part-time. I do not take for granted this gift. Pre-school has been a HUGE benefit to my son and his needs. They have skills that I don’t that help my son learn and succeed. It has been a HUGE benefit to our family.

I am a better mom and we are a better family due to the changes we made. God makes women to do different things. Some work outside the home. Some work from home. For others, home is work. I don’t believe in the Bible anywhere it says that mothers are not allowed to work outside of the home.

What did I learn? That my son is paying attention. It can be hard to believe at times. When it seems like I have to remind him to use good manners repeatedly I wonder if he listens or when the chores seem monotonous and you doubt that your family notices the work you do.

Yeah, kids see the bad, but they also see the good. I now believe that, even if they do not verbalize the good they see.

I am not saying that these things will help you. (Actually, exercise can’t hurt) I just want to challenge you by asking yourself if you have your joy and if not, what can you do to get it back? I hope you don’t have to wait until the kids are older or grown. Yes, you may have to have time away from kiddos, and that can be ok. Maybe God is having you get out of your comfort zone (and it may make your family squirm a little too).

I am grateful that my son and I can be happy and I have joy being a mom. I have a genuine smile when I think about how my son notices my smile.

Be blessed 🙂

 

 

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The Unveiled Wife book giveaway

03/23/2015 - Author: Jennifer

 

There are bloggers who really want to help others and tell you about God, but there are few that are so transparent and vulnerable and helpful as Unveiled Wife. People, she and her husband over at Husband Revolution are honest, and frankly, needed. I need to read about real life, not just generic marriage statement that marriage is hard. I am also tired of reading that if you work at it and have God in the center/above all, it will work out. I am not going to say that this isn’t true, but I find you relatable if you tell me what you endured — not fluff it up — and how God healed your marriage. When you are honest about the ugly, then I can believe that God has made your marriage beautiful. When you tell me what your struggles are/were and how you are healing/healed/still being refined, well, honestly, God is more believable. It is easier to believe that God can restore. Your belief in God is more real. This blogger does it and she wrote a book. Unveiled Wife is raw and honest, but not oversharing. I appreciate her not skimming over the hard and ugly stuff.

In her book, The Unveiled Wife, she tells you about her struggles with pride, anger, doubt, insecurity, addiction, and other stuff. She wants to encourage you with her story of healing and refinement. She isn’t perfect and never will be, and she doesn’t try to tell you that she is. (See what I mean by relatable? I totally get her!).  There is no false hope of perfection. Just a story of how her marriage was hard and how she had to let go A LOT and let God work in her. Jennifer does not lie and say that she still doesn’t have some struggles, BUT she does have hope. She let’s us know that we are not alone. I take comfort in this. I need relatability (is that a word?) for you to be believable. Her story shows you there is a God who wants to heal and help, but it takes surrender.

This book of 30 chapters (don’t let that overwhelm you, they are easy to read) is fantastic! (I could probably write a blog post on each chapter because I so get her and you probably will too). Your struggles may not be identical, but you will definitely take something away from it.

So now–the giveaway! I have 2 copies of The Unveiled Wife book to giveaway. All you have to do is follow the instructions to be entered. 2 winners will be contacted by email if you are the winner.

Thanks for stopping by and be blessed 🙂

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The Unveiled Wife Book Review

03/02/2015 - Author: Jennifer

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If you have been around here, then you know I have had the privilege of stumbling across Jennifer’s blog Unveiled Wife. When I found it, I was looking for resources that focused on wives, not motherhood. Please do not misunderstand me–I enjoy being a mom and there are a lot of good resources out there, but as a new mom, I wanted something to help me focus on my most important relationship here on earth: my marriage. I did not want to neglect my husband like I see so many moms do, which usually leads to a decline in the marriage (or sadly, the end of the marriage). I did not want that to happen. So, when I did a search, Unveiled Wife was found and I have been following her blog since due to her honesty, vulnerability, encouragement, and how God uses her to help me be a better wife. Well, this has taken me on a journey I could not of expected! One of them is contributing some articles to Unveiled Wife in the hopes of helping other wives.

So, when I learned that she was writing a book, I wanted to help spread the word because I knew it was going to be good, especially after going through her devotional. I knew it was a story that needed to be shared. I knew that her story would help marriages just as her blog is doing. Here is what you get when you read The Unveiled Wife:

  • A love story between Aaron, Jennifer, and God who never gave up.
  • Bravery as she tells her story of the struggles she and her husband endured in the early years of their marriage.
  • Vulnerability as she opens herself up to us and admits where she needed to be “unveiled”.
  • Encouragement in the fact that you are not alone as a wife with struggles.
  • Hope because she shows you how God never left her or abandoned their marriage.

There are times that I felt like my heart was breaking for her. There are times when I cringed because I understood what she was saying. I related to how she felt lonely, isolated, ashamed, angry, frustrated, doubtful if their marriage should have happened, and questioning God, all while being a newlywed.  If we are honest, I believe that we have all walked those paths as humans, not just wives. I have questioned God’s existence, but like Jennifer experienced, He never stops pursing us.

The book is broken down into small chapters with questions at the end of each chapter. I honestly did not think that I would care about the chapters since I did not have her exact struggles, but I was wrong. Jennifer dares to ask tough questions that I challenge all wives to honestly answer. She asks what causes you to be “unveiled”? I never thought that this was an issue, but whoa….she has me thinking. The Unveiled Wife bravely tells her story of refinement and just how hard it is, but worth it. I believe that every wife, no matter how long you have been married or where you are in your marriage, can benefit. I encourage you to buy a copy of The Unveiled Wife, but until then, here is a preview–you can download the introduction and Chapter 1 for free!!!!!! Also, check back here soon because I will be hosting a giveaway of The Unveiled Wife. I hope you will stop by.

Be blessed 🙂

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