Have you ever manipulated your husband to get what you want?08/01/2012 - Author: Jennifer - 11 Comments
I think that as wives we set the tone for our house. It is amazing to me the mood in my home when I am in a good mood. Everyone is happy! If I have a bad day, everyone is affected.
Manipulation is selfish and the Bible talks about being selfish. Examples:
What are ways to manipulate?
- One way is making promises you have no intention of keeping. Small example–If you make dinner tonight, I will do it tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, and you go out. Big example– If we have a child, I will raise it. You will not have to help in anyway. James 5:12 talks about keeping promises.
- A second way to manipulate is to withhold something. Classic example–withholding sex. We as wives really have some power here, and this is where we sometimes like to use it. Of course, there is Scripture reference to that in 1Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer…”
- Another way to manipulate is a guilt trip. I should have seen this one coming. I believe that most of us have been on the receiving end and have witnessed someone else being taken for a guilt trip. This is not healthy for a marriage, or any relationship — we are told to forgive and not hold a grudge, but guilt trips do neither of those things. I know that I have to be careful as a wife and mother. Guilt trips are a form of manipulation because they help get us what we want in the wrong way.