How do I Compare?01/23/2013 - Author: Jennifer - 4 Comments
I have been doing the Hope for the Weary Mom online study and this is the 3rd week for it. I have enjoyed every week and I would encourage you to read the book check it out if you haven’t yet.
Today’s post stirred something in me–on the other end of the spectrum though. Talking about comparisons made me think of how I compare myself to other moms.
If we are honest with ourselves moms, we compare. I compare how I am not like other moms or how I should be a better mom. But you know what else? I compare how I am a better mom than others.
My husband and I were married 8 years before our son was born. That gave me time to watch and learn, but that doesn’t give me the authority to think that I am better when I don’t make mistakes. I am not going to say that I don’t need to improve, but for me to think how I am better–that isn’t right. Arrogance 🙁
Megan said that the only measuring stick we need to be concerned with is The Holy Spirit kind. Well, I fail. I fail every time I compare how I am doing better and how I am doing worse. The Holy Spirit doesn’t compare and I shouldn’t either.
Motherhood is not the only place I compare myself and my life. I compare marriages, blogs, families, friendships, and other things wishing I was in a better place. Sometimes, God has me where He wants me and sometimes He wants to make an effort to do better or take that next step instead of waiting, complaining, or wishing for better things.
I am not going to be the best at anything. I would have more arrogance than I already have. I need to mind my own business and keep striving to do better for me and stop patting myself on the back when I do get things right. Instead, I need to thank God for when I don’t mess up because let’s face it–it is only because of my reliance on Him that I make it and His grace to help me fix it.