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02/08/2013 - Author: Jennifer - 10 Comments

Every Friday, Lisa-Jo Baker over at Tales from a Gypsy Mama gives us a word and a challenge. To write for 5 minutes without abandon. It is fun and I encourage you to try it. Here we go! The word is…


The longer you know someone, the easier it should be to be honest with them. However, I think that fear gets in the way. Fear of them not liking me anymore or I may hurt their feelings. You want to keep hold of this friendship, and yet, it can be scary to bare your thoughts, feelings, fears to them.

It used to be a lot easier for me to be honest and open, to bare my feelings and opinions, but as I age, it is getting harder. Maybe that is good in some situations and there are levels of appropriateness that needs to be exercised, but friendships and marriages–I think that we should be able to bare our thoughts, feelings, and fears without the fear of judgment.

Why do I fear judgement? I have done it myself. When people have had the courage to be bare–instead of love, there was judgement. I need to be careful and praise them for their bravery and do what I can to help, not judge.

So I will try to do better. To let others be bare and me to better bare–to not put up a facade and let others see me.

Five Minute Friday

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Discussion (10 Comments)

  1. by Cole

    It is so very hard isn’t it? It can be a good thing to think before we share- but yes- how we hear what others share- it is shaped by our experience- we all must be careful to not judge what others are being so very brave by sharing. It’s nice to meet you! Coming over by way of LJB πŸ™‚

  2. OH man this is beautiful!! I too struggle with the fear of being judged!! Thank you for writing, I am always blessed when I read your blog!!

  3. I love this, friend. Being bare and vulnerable opens us up to possible judgement and hurt. But, to live any other way is sad and lonely.

    • Agree Stacy–it is sad and lonely. I am so glad you stopped by. Be blessed:)

  4. Such a hard place to be in because there is no guarantee that you will not be hurt, or misunderstood, or judged but at the same time, there is a freedom in knowing who you are and standing in grace for yourself, risking being bare to be known. And I don’t know about anyone else, but you seem like the type that’s worth getting to know. πŸ˜‰ Blessings to you.

  5. Happy to have “met” you. That unmasking, that allowing ourselves to be bare and known seems to have a direct connection to the freedom others feel to do the same in our presence. We have to move forward in wisdom, for sure, but, as you say, to reveal ourselves, and to receive a revealed other without judgment and instead with love…how that must delight God. Every single time.

    • Thank you Ashley for stopping by and for your comment. Be blessed:)

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