Menu

Categories

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 30 other subscribers

Blogs I Recommend

Where Else You Can Find Me

  • Unveiled Wife Contributor

© 2012 Purple Buoy - All rights reserved.

Firstyme WordPress Theme.
Designed by Charlie Asemota.

Five Minute Friday~~ Song

05/17/2013 - Author: Jennifer

Every Friday, Lisa-Jo Baker over at Tales from a Gypsy Mama gives us a word and a challenge. To write for 5 minutes without abandon. It is fun and I encourage you to try it. Here we go! The word is…

SONG

FiveMinuteFriday-Song

I can’t sing, but I do enjoy listening to music. My son also enjoys music and songs that are written for his 2 year old mind get stuck in my head. Usually, just one part of a song will play over and over in my mind. This is annoying, but it did get me thinking about  what I put in my son’s head.

Am I speaking words of encouragement into him? Am I speaking words that will boost his confidence while speaking truth? What does my son think when he hears his mama’s voice? Is it annoying? Is it soothing? Have I spoken words that when they replay in his mind, they annoy him or make him smile? Or have I spoken words that like a bad song, replay over and over in his mind and bring him down?

What about my husband? Do I speak words of encouragement to him or have my words hurt him and that is the song on repeat in his mind?

I want to put positive thoughts in my son’s and husband’s head–things they can repeat over and over again. Words of encouragement.

I usually get annoyed when same phrase gets stuck in my head ,but if it is a good word/encouragement/positive thought I put in someone’s head, I hope it wouldnt be thought of as an annoyance.

Five Minute Friday

13 Comments - Categories: Uncategorized

A Letter To Myself

05/16/2013 - Author: Jennifer

Dear Weary Mom,

This is a letter to myself really. This has been a hard road, and my son is only 2. I thought that when my son was at this age we would be in a routine, but we are not. I thought that he would sleep through the night. However, he is proving to be a night owl and his parents are not. I thought that I would have more confidence as a mom. Instead it seems that I have more failures than victories, so there is no way to have confidence that I am doing a good job.

Please mom, believe me when I say that your son being delayed in certain areas is not your fault and not a form of punishment. Please~~ find the good that is there. Focus on what he can do. Celebrate the victories that you do have.

Another thing to remind myself of~~ I am going to fail, but God is with me. I have to remind myself that when I don’t speak in a loving manner  that there is forgiveness for me. I am not a hopeless cause. There is redemption. I am where I am meant to be~~ a mom with a son who is just trying to learn, grow, and survive. Just like me. He doesn’t act out because he hates me.  My son and I~~ we both have lessons to learn and grace to give each other. Weary mom, also remember to give yourself grace.

Before I was a mother, I thought that I would do all of the teaching to my child. My son has helped me learn lessons that God knew I needed. I am grateful. Really I am. I don’t judge as much as I used to and I don’t have all of the answers that I did before I had the title of mom. So, to all of the moms out there~~ I offer an apology to you for when I judged you and saw ALL of the ways you weren’t doing it right. Please forgive me. I now see that we all are doing the best we can and holding on to hope.

Be blessed:)

Linking up over at Hope for the Weary Mom today. If you need encouragement, you should stop by.

No Comments - Categories: Uncategorized

Mommy Rocks

05/09/2013 - Author: Jennifer

Every year, one day in the month of May, Mother’s are celebrated. I know this day can be hard for a lot of people. I know that some of you don’t have great moms. I know that there are some of you who have buried their moms and their only wish would be for one more day with them. I know that there are some of you who know the pain of not having kids of your own to call you mom, and if you were to have just one wish, that would be all you would wish for. I ache for all of you.

There are a variety of moms. Those who can do crafts, remove all sorts of laundry stains, drive carpool, etc. I want to celebrate mother’s out there. I can’t imagine that I will celebrate all of you, so I will apologize in advance. Feel free to leave a comment so that we can remedy that.

For the single mom: You do more than seems humanly possible. You probably can’t rest when you want to. I can’t imagine you feel like you are understood, appreciated, and you may feel lonely. I want you to know that you are one of the hardest workers I know, and I admire you.

For the mom who adopted: The joy you experienced I am sure can’t be explained. You opened your arms and heart to a child who was made for you. You worked hard to get here and deserve to be celebrated.

For the birth mom who loved through surrender:  When you surrendered your baby for adoption, you gave a gift and you gave selflessly.  You are amazing. Don’t ever doubt that.

For the mom of a special needs child: You have to help break down barriers, and overcome more obstacles than other moms. You are a soldier for your child. You often feel lonely and a lot of people don’t understand. You overcome the stares of strangers. You show what it is like to love a child without limits. I admire you. I know your child loves you, even if they can’t say or express it. Please believe that.

Teen moms: You are probably spoken of more in a negative light, but please know that you are not the first, you are loved, and you are special. Yes, you are probably judged more harshly, but love your baby because no matter what your age when you become a mom, your child is depending on you. You may feel ill-equipped. Guess what? A lot of moms do, but unfortunately, people may want to mistreat you because of your age. Don’t listen to haters and those who judge. Keep doing the best you can and listen to your mommy instinct.

Caregivers: You have a gift. You are an influence more than you may ever know. You love on children when their parents can’t. You help shape who they are and I hope you are appreciated by the kids and their parents. I know this mom appreciates those who love on my boy when he is in the nursery and those  times I work outside the home.

For the mom who mourns: I am convinced there is no pain greater than the pain of losing a child. It doesn’t seem natural. It isn’t the way it is supposed to be. Parents are supposed to raise their kids, not mourn their loss. Please keep living, even when a part of you died.

I can’t talk about Mother’s Day without a shout out to my mom. My mom had me at 17. My dad had just turned 18. They are still married to each other today. She never blamed me for opportunities missed. She never complained about the way her and my dad did things. She never condoned either. She never looks at me with regret. Both my parents have helped lead me to the Cross, and for all of this, I am grateful. Thank you mom. I love you.

I also need to give a shout out to my Mother-in-Law. Thank you for raising your son, my now husband. I know you are proud of him. You should be. I love you.

So moms, I hope you have a Happy Mother’s Day. What we do is valuable and irreplaceable. I know we have a lot of doubts, but please, don’t doubt your worth. Moms, we make mistakes, but tomorrow is a new day. Please, let us not dwell, but learn from mistakes and celebrate the gift that you are–mom.

Be blessed:)

Mother's Day post

3 Comments - Categories: Uncategorized

The Unexpected That Led To Gratefulness

05/03/2013 - Author: Jennifer

Today, was not a good day. An appointment with a new doctor did not yield the results I was hoping for. I was frustrated, scared, disappointed, discouraged, and felt lonely. It isn’t a huge deal what the doctor said, but nonetheless, I was mad. I followed advice about prayer. Pray expectantly. Well, I did. I expected God to answer a certain way. I knew how I wanted Him to answer and that is what I expected from Him. Now, this isn’t the first time this has happened and since I seem to be a repeat offender and can’t learn lessons the first time, I doubt it will be the last time I will kldo this to myself. So, my theology was a little warped, but God loves me anyway. (I am trying. I am a work in progress. I will get better).

I called my husband Matt at work to tell him about the disappointing doctor’s appointment. He didn’t have time to talk, discuss, or whatever. Being frustrated and feeling alone, I really wanted him to talk. Like now. I was mad that he couldn’t talk, so I started to shut down.I hung up on him, and not in a nice way.  Know what happened a few minutes later? My husband called me out. He texted me saying not to shut him out because he doesn’t have time to discuss. Well, this is new, and I have a confession. I like it.

I like that my husband called me out. I needed it. I needed my husband to tell me that what I did was wrong. Now, this only works because he is doing it out of love. Love for me. Love for our marriage. He had no selfish motives behind this.

I truly do say this with a grateful heart. I know that it may not be popular, but I am proud of my husband. I am proud that he didn’t back down and allow me to put a wedge between us. I am giddy that he didn’t let me get away with mistreating him. This man of mine may have been prepared for battle because in the past, I would have made excuses, torn him down, and tried to manipulate an apology from him. I had no excuses. All I could say was sorry. Matt forgave me.

So, even though my theology could use some work, so does my heart. God is working in both of us, and today, I am seeing the results. It is awesome! I am grateful. For all of it.

Be blessed:)

Happy Wives Club

15 Comments - Categories: Uncategorized

%d bloggers like this: