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09/23/2016 - Author: Jennifer

Pile of booksSo, I never did consider myself a reader or a real lover of books. However, as I was talking to some ladies about ideas for their next study, I found myself having opinions. Maybe I am a reader after all.

Yes, I have read some other popular ones, but if I did not like them, they are not listed. Yes, there are ones that I still need to read, but I will not recommend them unless I like them. Also, I kept it to Non-fiction only to keep the list short. So…here, in my humble opinion, is a list of suggestions for various reasons, listed in alphabetical order by title. Happy reading friends.

If you need a devotional or Bible Study:

  • 21 Days to Finding Purpose in Pain by Stacy Williams
  • Jesus Calling by Sarah Young–short and to the point. She writes it like Jesus is speaking.
  • Lord, Change My Additude Before It’s Too Late by James MacDonald–I am still reading this one with my group of ladies and it.is.good.
  • One More Step by Rachel Wojo–this can be read alone, but can also be done as a study.
  • Trust Without Borders by Arabah Joy.
  • Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst
  • What Happens When Women Say Yes to God by Lysa TerKeurst.
  • Wives After God(12 week group study) or Wife After God(30-day devo) by Jennifer Smith. If you are like me and a fan of the blog Unveiled Wife and have followed her story, then you will grow doing her study.
  • Women of the Bible by Jean E Syswerda. I like how this breaks it up over 5 days per woman that you study.

For the Gals

  • For The Love by Jen Hatmaker–You will laugh. You will think. She is just that good.
  • For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhehan. I found this helpful as a wife, but really, if you want help in understanding the men in your life, read this. As a side note, she has A LOT of books for various life stages that you should check out. I haven’t read all of them, but if they are like the ones I have read, then they will be helpful.
  • Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey–girl, this can make you rethink your position in church. I was raised in a legalistic way, so this was just nice.  Good stuff and I just love her and would love to meet her this side of Heaven.
  • The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst.

For the Wives

  • The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
  • The Unveiled Wife by Jennifer Smith
  • Through A Man’s Eyes by Shaunti Feldhahan and Craig Gross (Husbands will appreciate you reading this. Can also be helpful for boymoms). I have had the privilege of hearing them speak and they know their stuff. This book is helpful about how guys think
  • To Walk or Stay by Lara Williams. Even if you have not had the trauma of an affair, this is such a good read.

For the Men

  • For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn–ok guys. This will help you with the gals in your life.
  • Husband After God by Aaron and Jennifer Smith. I admit that I have not read this, but I like them so…….

For Couples

  • The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage by Stormie Omartian. OK, I honestly do not remember much about this book. I forgot that I had it, but I don’t believe it can hurt.
  • The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn–what do happy couples do? Some of it is hard, some you may find easy or you are already doing.

For Parents

  • How Do You Tuck In A Superhero? by Rachel Balducci. This was especially helpful for this boymom. I loved it.
  • Praying Circles Around your Children by Mark Batterson
  • The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. This one might be helpful for child care providers or teachers as well as parents.  (A confession–I have not read the one for marriages. Maybe 1 day).

Just Because/Make you Think

  • Interrupted by Jen Hatmaker–you will think.
  • Love Does by Bob Goff
  • Radical by David Platt–good perspective
  • Sparkly Green Earrings by Melanie Shankle–fun read about her parenting journey.
  • The Antelope in the Room by Melanie Shankle–then she wrote one about marriage
  • The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson–pray big people. Pray big.

Now, I am sure that there are some that I have missed, but I am only human. I could talk more about some of the books and the authors, but I don’t want to ramble.

Tell me what you think. Better yet, tell the author if you like the books and spread the word to your friends.

Be blessed 🙂

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Submission in my marriage

07/20/2016 - Author: Jennifer

Lessons for DeclanI have struggled writing this. Other bloggers have done it better. (I have linked two of my favorite bloggers at the end). I have to say that reading wiser bloggers have caused me to reevaluate what it means to be submissive, and I am grateful for them. I would love to meet them and thank them, but alas, this will have to do. Thank you Sheila and Sarah.

I don’t want to bash Matt. (He is better. We are better). I don’t know that I can fully wrap my head around submission. However, my husband Matt did write about it. I said I would. So here it goes.

What I have learned from smarter, wiser women who love God and live to serve Him:

  • Doesn’t mean he makes all decisions–compromise is to be made. In our early years of marriage, what Matt wanted, Matt got. He wouldn’t think of how it would make me feel or how his decisions or words affected US.
  • Doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion
  • He isn’t smarter than me. 
  • I am not inferior. Yes, he is better at some things than others,  but we help each other in areas that we are better, not hurt each other or put each other down. 
  • I don’t have to feel guilty and it is not a sin to have opinions and even be right and my husband be wrong. 

What we did was emotional abusive and has fractured trust. I definitely do not believe that this was showing the love of Jesus to each other and the world. I still struggle and scratch my head at what we were led to believe. Growing up, nobody talked about husbands dying, but wives submit. I am not kidding. Nobody ever talked about Ephesians 5:25-32. Why didn’t the church say that women have value or worth other than to work the nursery? My husband’s actions were encouraged. I just don’t get it. I do not want my son to ever see this. I want him to value the roles that men and women have in church and the world. I want him to respect both genders equally.

The old ways of living out our intrepretation of submission has caused dreams to be crushed and caused low self-esteem.  I am sad to say that there wasn’t anyone until recently who tried to straighten this mess out. What I mean is that there was never any teaching or preaching against what Matt was doing and how we were living our marriage. Nobody seemed to be in a big hurry to correct how we interpreted it.

Since we have gone through marriage counseling, our marriage is healthier now that we are trying to value each others opinions.

What does submission look like in our marriage now? Since we have started the rebuilding of our marriage and I have gained insight from wise women, I believe that submission means helping each other out–be a team for the better of our marriage. It is believing that wives have a voice that husbands should respect (and dare I say adore and appreciate)? It means serving God together with our own talents and gifts. It means listening. It means compromise.

My husband Matt is way better and we have a healthier partnership. I am grateful.

So can I ask you a couple of questions? What does submission look like in your marriage? Were you raised with the word submission, and if so, what were you taught? I really want to hear your thoughts.

 

Be blessed 🙂

 

In which I disagree with Candace Cameron Bure about “biblical marriage”

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